Love Moderne Podcast

We will delve into Wyatt's story in a later chapter. For now, let's get to know Aiden a bit better.

On one hand, Aiden's life is going great. His real estate career is growing by leaps and bounds. He owns a flat (condo) in a tony part of town.

Both his mum and his dog love him, unconditionally.

And, up until recently, he thought he was in a “perfect relationship" with the woman he was soon to marry.

A five-year relationship in which he had invested his precious Time, Energy, and Coins.

Then his fiancée came home one day; announced she was cheating on him; broke off their engagement; and moved out.

Leaving Aiden dazed, confused, heartbroken, and lonely.

Now, three months have passed and, outside of work, he spends his days exercising, hanging out with his pup, and watching TV.

Lots and lots of TV.

"Not sure I'm fully ready to Date," Aiden admits. "But another weekend alone watching TV might land me in the looney bin."

Most of his friends have moved to the 'burbs, with their respective wives and children. Aiden is definitely feeling like the odd Bachelor out.

And now, he has to start all over again.

Find someone else. Date someone else. Invest in someone else. Propose to someone else.

Meanwhile, his biological clock is ticking like mad.

"I'm pretty desperate to have kids," he says.

So, for the first time in his life, he creates a dating app profile. He asks a friend, who is a photography buff, to snap a few photos of him outdoors.

The pics come out great. Aiden looks youthful, handsome, and successful. He is stylish, and his dog is adorable.

He sets his dating app preference to women who are five to ten years younger than him because, well, he wants to make sure she is mature yet fertile.

Then, as the likes and matches start rolling in, he grins.

Hopefully, he thinks, I’m just one swipe away from finding True Love and my Happily Ever After.

So, Dear Reader, did you notice any red flags?

Can you list at least four reasons Aiden is not Dateable right now?

Like the glaring red flag that he has an antiquated understanding of how fertility works? (Per the U.S. National Institutes of Health, 2 out of 3 infertility cases are due in full, or in part, to male reproductive issues.)

Heck, even Aiden knows he is not Dateable now. He readily admits it.

Yet, he created a dating app profile anyway.

He is swiping; matching; messaging; and scheduling Dates with women, anyway.

You should get back out there — his friends say.

Ya ain’t getting any younger, chap — his bio clock says.

The best way to get over a breakup is to fall in love with someone else — rom com movies say.

Though Aiden may look and sound like he wants a True Love relationship, his actions betray the fact that he is not truly and Lovingly thinking about the person on the other end of his desired relationship.

To experience True Love, you must have Love for your beloved long before you meet them.

You must be considerate and empathetic to the affect you will have in their life.

Will you be a positive addition? Or a negative subtraction and distraction?